He has successfully created a boundary where the man, Estas, disappears, and the musician emerges. By keeping his romantic life private (or simply non-existent in the traditional sense), he preserves the universality of his music. If he were publicly known to be married to a specific woman, the narrative of his music might shift in the minds of the audience from "universal truth" to "personal love song."
While he may not speak of a "wife," Tonne frequently speaks about the concept of the feminine. In his worldview, music itself is a relationship. He has described his guitar as a partner, and the act of playing as a conversation between masculine and feminine energies. estas tonne wife